BEING UNDERSTOOD

Being understood is such a strange thing nowadays… People talk, yet they don’t really understand each other. Many say, “Why doesn’t anyone understand me?” How is it that in an age overflowing with communication tools, people still fail to truly connect? Where do we go wrong? Where do we misunderstand? What does understanding really mean?

There used to be very little technology—people would visit one another. Then came the telephone, and distances grew shorter. Visits became fewer. Voices turned into text, and messaging began. And then, only images remained…

People write long paragraphs but still can’t express what they mean. When they get replies like “ok,” “thx,” “bye,” they lose motivation. The message is delivered, but the meaning isn’t. How so?

Take WhatsApp, for example—it’s used everywhere. When you send a message, what appears first? A single gray check mark—meaning: not delivered, not read. Double gray checks mean: delivered, but not read. Double blue checks mean: delivered and read.

But tell me—does being understood have a color?

This is exactly where communication breakdowns and arguments begin. Everyone speaks from their own understanding. Yet whoever’s on the other side also interprets through their own lens. Could it be that there’s something we’re missing here?

Think of a group of friends, or a family… Someone keeps sending videos—no voice, no text. Just pictures, one after another. They communicate through emojis and animated reactions.

Another person holds down the voice message button, locks it, forgets to stop recording—talks and talks endlessly. If they’re not sending voice notes, they write long, detailed messages instead.

Then there’s the quiet one—present in the group but almost invisible. Rarely speaks. Hardly reacts to any message. Their vocabulary in life consists of just a few words. They think that saying too much only causes misunderstanding.

The human being simply doesn’t fit into a single category.

Some people listen easily, others oppose everything. Some thrive in crises, others freeze. Some are meticulously organized, while others live in constant chaos.

People’s priorities and desires in life are simply different.

To understand where these differences in behavior and thought come from, one must first be curious about people themselves. How does their inner operating system work? How do they perceive life? How do they express it? Once these become clear, communication starts to flow again. Relationships stop being so exhausting.

Amid all this diversity, asking one genuine question can sometimes change an entire life.
Maybe being understood isn’t that hard after all.

So then—who are these people?

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